drop your judgment that you quote don’t have it that bad“ or that others are pathetic because they go to meetings. Just shut up and go to a meeting and you instantly see that the support and love in that meeting no matter where you are, makes you comfortable exposing your vulnerabilities and knowing at the same time that your feelings are valid, validated through the experience of others and your anonymity will be protected as there is no other way to start to understand oneself. Just go. Here is a great resource from the AA website that will help you find a meeting anywhere in the country within a few miles of wherever you are. That’s such an amazing realization because the support is everywhere, the formula is the same and the people have all gone through and are going through the same experiences no matter your socioeconomic status, arrest, that you may or may not have had DWIs that you may or may not have had a no matter how you look. Everyone is on the same plane and respect one another without judgment based on my experience thus far. There’s no tolerance for judgment, or disrespecting others less to be thrown out immediately.